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EternalSun

She / Her

Sacramento, CA

Where are you at in your life stage?
I'm in a phase where I'm reconciling my desires with my reality and deciding what I want my next phase of life to be like. I have a healthy orientation to work and balance it well with my personal life. But what kind of life work will be meaningful going forward? How I do I want this chapter of life to feel? It's exciting to have space and opportunity to think through the big questions.
How's your life?
It's good - peaceful, positive and drama free. I have friends, family and hobbies I enjoy.
What helps you keep your sanity?
Writing - creatively or in a journal, reading, learning something new, walks and laughing with loved ones keeps me sane and balanced. And when I get to travel or go to the coast it helps.
What is most important to you right now?
Loving family relationships, reciprocal and warm friendships, creativity and self-expression, freedom
Anything you recently found interesting?
The Equalizer is a getting a spinoff

MorningSolstice

They / Them

Elk Grove, CA

Where are you at in your life stage?
learning how to drive, finally got in the habit of excercising and stretching, started traveling and making memories my childhood self could only daydream of.
How's your life?
I like to spend time with animals and really get to know them as individuals. My two dogs are getting old and I began goldfish keeping two years ago and its going great. Would love to start feeding local wildlife again like our pigeons and squirrels and if im lucky an opossum will visit.
What helps you keep your sanity?
I like to consider myself a regular at a few places... a ramen shop, coffee shop, and a local store. I've been illustrating for a decade or so and I'm happy I never grew out of the hobby but ideally I will explore new ones too.
What is most important to you right now?
Decorating my new room.
Anything you recently found interesting?
The existence of the word conglobation.

Petrichor

She / Her

Sacramento, CA

Where are you at in your life stage?
I'm in my mid-30s and mid-career in academia pondering a career change to try something new. While I feel solidly settled in Sacramento, I've lived in California for 6 years and in some ways, living in this state feels like a bit of a vacation still, which is a pretty special feeling. I bought a house in 2020 because of a change in my housing situation early in the pandemic and not wanting to negotiate COVID boundaries with someone new, I'm surprised to find that I've leaned into the whole domestic situation and fixing things up. I worked hard my first several years here to build a network of friends, and find at this stage in life I'm forming closer friendships based on shared activities, like golfing, paddleboarding, hiking, talking book recs, trivia nights, etc. I'd love to meet more folks who also like to get out and talk over shared hobbies.
How's your life?
I feel pretty fortunate overall. I can get a bit down the rabbit hole of wondering what else is out there to explore like I'm not doing enough, but I have a wonderful relationship with my mother and really close friends, and I really cherish that. The last few years were an unfortunate culmination of grief from the loss of a close family member plus burnout, but I'm coming out of it with slightly tentative excitement for whatever's next. Leaning into all of the fun outdoor stuff to get into in NorCal helps break up feelings of monotony.
What helps you keep your sanity?
I moved out here fresh out of a breakup and not knowing anyone, so I took up boxing. 6 years later and I still find it to be an incredible stress-reliever. That, and I'm an endless hobbyist. I love learning and trying new things.
What is most important to you right now?
I have toyed with the idea of quitting drinking for a while for a variety of reasons, so I'm 12 days sans alcohol and really trying to honor that as hard as it can be in social situations where it feels like you're the only one not partaking. That, and self-compassion. Recovering perfectionist over here.
Anything you recently found interesting?
That setting up drip irrigation is like adult legos, but with tubing and water. There's numerous ways to put it all together, so it’s surprisingly forgiving.
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Mono

He / Him

Folsom, CA

Where are you at in your life stage?
In the stage of some soul searching and what comes after. At the start of my career and questioning what I want out of life. I got some answers after a month of solo travel which included an ayahuasca ceremony.
Dealt with some big life changes in my 20s, so moving to CA feels like a new and exciting start to my 30s.
How's your life?
Life is good - but it’s also been a roller coaster. It’s been a story of self discovery and growth. Trying new things and seeing what sticks.
What helps you keep your sanity?
Yoga, meditation, bike riding, books, and music!
I listen to most everything except country. I’m hoping to explore music more with the drums (my bread and butter), guitar, and singing.
What is most important to you right now?
Keeping the relationships and connections I have, having creative pursuits, and being the coolest uncle.
Anything you recently found interesting?
Attachment styles in relationships and Mac Millers posthumous albums

Slipfish

He / Him

Grass Valley, CA

Where are you at in your life stage?
Somewhere between bombastic buffoonery and domestic distraction. Old enough to have shaved off most of the rough edges of youth, but with a little energy left yet. Feeling a growing urge to return to passions to create I had when I was younger; writing, working on mods or an indie game, or building a project car.
How's your life?
I wouldn't walk around bragging, most of the things I'm proud of aren't grand, epic accomplishments, but I'm remarkably happy and content.
What helps you keep your sanity?
6.5 hours of sleep every night and a commitment to never work 90+ hour weeks again. Diving into gaming, which serves as both a form of my escapism as well as a social space to spend time with friends.
What is most important to you right now?
Learning to enjoy the moment, even when things don't go as planned. Time spent with family and loved ones; being in my late 30s, I'm getting to the age where I recognize more than ever how important it is to appreciate them while they're still here.
Anything you recently found interesting?
Been on an entire kick about reading histories of game development studios. The good, the bad, and the ugly.

daniil

He / Him

Washington, CA

Where are you at in your life stage?
I am right in the middle, somewhere between professional fulfillment and mid-life crisis. Gathered a baggage of life stories and ideas, grew out of a few things, hasn't grown into others. Prefer to think that I'm still open to everything new and exploring life, but maybe I just can't admit that I don't know where I'm headed.
How's your life?
Life's been pretty good, to the point of almost boring sometimes. I got an interesting job and great family, between which I keep alternating in an endless cycle work-home-work. Probably due to this cycle of life I started questioning what and where am I really in life and where it's all going.
What helps you keep your sanity?
My job and my hobbies are mostly creative, like writing or music, which helps to abstract from reality or create a sense of personal achievement. Kind of hooked on this feeling of 'moving somewhere' with what I am doing. Just recently discovered quite the opposite way - just stopping in the moment and meditating. Trying to balance those two modes now.
What is most important to you right now?
I am trying to provide some stability in life for my family, being a responsible adult etc. and at the same time leave some time for myself to grow and change for better. Trying to get personal space to pursue my own interests.
Anything you recently found interesting?
I've recently got back into reading and discovered a whole new fields I want to explore more and discuss: humanistic psychology, systems approach to sociology. On the lighter side of life - I can talk about music for hours.

GarrayFromDaBay

He / Him

Roseville, CA

Where are you at in your life stage?
Recently divorced from a two decade long relationship, shared time with two elementary school aged children, mid career and not looking for advancement for now.
How's your life?
after some therapy, deep self reflection, and reprioritizing… it’s good. There’s some thoughts about “imposter syndrome” but I really do feel like I’m the happiest I’ve been as an adult.
What helps you keep your sanity?
Getting enough sleep, working out 5-6 times a week, and learning to accept that I can’t control how other people feel/say/do, only how I react to it.
What is most important to you right now?
My kids… always being a better dad by making myself better & happier and rebuilding my relationships with the rest of my family and friends.
Anything you recently found interesting?
There’s always a choice, it’s whether or not you an accept the consequences… and I’m good with the choices that I’ve made. Are you?