Code of Conduct

I’m in my early thirties, working in Tech leadership, and recently relocated to Orange County after spending my entire life in the suburbs of Los Angeles. Right now, I’m focused on building meaningful relationships, ticking off items from my bucket list, and hoping to find my future partner along the way.

I’m at a point where many aspects of my life are at a fresh start—my career, love life, and living situation. It can feel overwhelming at times, but I’m also excited about what the next few months might bring. I’ve learned that life can change from one day to the next. Recently, I faced some curveballs and made the decision to resign from my role, choosing to bet on myself to find a better fit.

What helps me keep my sanity is a mix of things: spending quality time with friends and family, playing basketball, hitting the gym, always having a trip to look forward to, cooking some homemade meals, and ending the day with a relaxing soak in the Jacuzzi.

Right now, what’s most important to me is establishing strong roots in Orange County, cultivating deeper, more meaningful relationships, finding a new place to call home, advancing to the next chapter in my career, and dating with intention.

A few things have caught my attention recently:

1. I finally tried pickleball, and now I totally get the hype. I’m already looking forward to my next game! 2. I’ve been reminded that your mind can often be your toughest opponent. 3. Altitude sickness is no joke; I learned this firsthand during a recent trip to Peru.

Mid 30’s foreign transplant in a stable career. I am enjoying my hobbies and feeling much more confident about myself. Happy in my relationship and have began talking about the future

I feel quite decent after everything I've been through. I moved from Kansas in 2015 (and the Philippines before that) with only two suitcases, no friends, and, most surprisingly, no job lined up. All of this was an attempt to restart my life, which had previously been depressing and unfulfilling. I'm doing lot better mentally and physically. I am continually trying to improve myself. Though things are going well now, I have this dread that things will change and that I must constantly be prepared. With a positive mindset, which I'm working on, this shouldn't be an issue.

I love to play beach volleyball and listen to electronic dance music. I also like to experience and see new things. Regarding my previous response, I would like to be able to practice gratitude and contentment as a better approach to live life

Creating deep connections is something I feel like I'm lacking in my life, therefore I think that's vital right now. Having gained more self-assurance and understanding of who I am, I believe that I have become quite selective about who I spend time with. I should still make an effort to find like-minded individuals with whom I hope to build fulfilling relationships so that we can both develop and learn from one another. Becoming the best version of myself is another thing that's important to me right now so that when the time comes, I can be a wonderful parent, one I wish I was given

Self-love, while it's not that new. Almost every one of my previous comments touched on self-love to some extent. After everything, it's one that can help you keep going.

I'm in my early 20's and currently attending university. I moved here for school and don't want to miss the chance to meet as many people as possible before I get flung into the workforce. Meeting people who aren't just students or in my major is pretty hard so I think it's really cool that this site exists!!!

Life definitely feels like it's accelerating as a lot of different paths constantly hover around me. But I'm grateful to be in the situation that I'm in and don't take anything for granted.

I'd say I'm generally a happy and content person who tries to live a satisfying life without regret. This is definitely one of the reasons I joined this site. Cool people are all around us but we only walk past each other! :))

Letting myself become enveloped in a new interest:

Lifting weights, learning to draw after going down a 1am rabbithole of art, watching movies recommended to me until I pass out and then talking about them the next day, reading books while riding the train, going to every museum I can, etc.

I'm making an active effort to avoid idling my life away on tiktok/youtube/whatever and feel that I'm constantly learning something about myself or the world by doing so.

I guess my overall goal is to continue and grow as a person and make more meaningful relationships with people... pretty much. If I put an effort into making the people around me happier, then I'm happy, and I think society continues to get a little better in a small, circular way.

I recently had a professor explain what manga is to me in a really insightful way. It's basically Japanese comic books, but the authors, who draw and create the story, commonly spend their entire lives on their works while working 12 hour+ days.

It's pretty awe-inspiring to me that someone could sacrifice that much to have their story be told to the world, practically inking their life on paper for all to see.

I'm 37, married, working a job I (mostly) like. Made a bunch of changes in my life in the past 4 years that have made a big impact on me. Hoping to make some new connections and enrich life through those.

Not too dramatic. Very average. Work is hectic, trying to fill the days with fun things to do outside of that.

My pets who provide structure in my daily life and provide many funny situations, music and routines.

Enjoyment. Simply finding enjoyment in day to day life.

How Simon Reynolds manages to humanize John Lydon in his book Rip it Up and Start Again, when the guy is kind of a prick.

Married, no kids, busy work schedule, but evenings and weekends are open. Trying to find new experiences and explorations, as I currently WFH and want to change my weekly schedule up.

Good, not great. Steady as it goes. Got problems like anyone else, but always look to stay busy with activities. Travel is something that I always look forward to.

A good coffee, an even better beer. Looking to be surrounded by the simple pleasures. Following local sports and their success is big. New discoveries are crucial.

Family, finding new things, new travel destinations. Getting back into my writing, as I’ve kept it away for too long. Goes hand in hand with new discoveries.

Not recently, but always on the lookout. Been curious about pickleball, and possibly improv. I miss good film conversation. The new Vidiots Theater is awesome.

I just started a new chapter in my life and recently moved from Europe to the Bay Area. So I'm currently in a phase of exploring, learning and adjusting.

My life is full of excitements but also challenges. My move came with a new job, new country and being geographically away from my fiancé and long lasting social network. I enjoy this phase very much as it gave me the chance to reset and a lot of freedom in how I want to shape my life here.

I love water sports very much, kayaking and recently also got into surfing. Also, I enjoy being in nature and riding my bike. I listen to music a lot and sometimes go to concerts, mostly rock. I love playing boardgames. Whenever there is more time, I'm addicted to traveling.

I'd like to preserve the feeling of freedom and satisfaction I currently have. Also, I want to gain back the confidence I had in my job.

The mountains behind Fremont build a stunning scenery. I never saw such a lighting.

Mid-30s, trying to career change from admin to cybersecurity. It's been kind of rough, so I'm leaning on other aspects of my life to see me through this stage.

Not too bad, I have a couple friends that I hang out with, my life situation is pretty stable and safe, and I get to do most of the things I want to do.

Meditation, semi-frequent local travel/eating, hiking, volunteering, video games. Recently started a livestream baking through an entire cookbook as a little project of mine.

Looking to build more social support through old and new friends and other local relationships. I’ve lived where I currently am for a long time and still don’t have someone within a 10 minute walk whom I know and can trust if something happens. What really made this hit home for me was that during Covid, a dude with a stolen car evading police mangled my front yard - my neighbors literally just watched and said and did nothing afterwards and didn't even check if I was okay. I knew then that if I didn't make some local connections I could die in my house and nobody would even know or care.

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